Friday, August 30, 2013

On reading Caramelo

Just finished another book that is required reading for my sophomore son: Caramelo by Sandra Cisneros.

Did I mention we have to buy books for this school? Adds another several hundred dollars to the price tag of private education.  Saving grace: the students held a used book sale just before school started where I picked up probably 2/3rds of the books for 1/2- 1/10 of their value, and the internet, where I bought most of the rest, except a couple new textbooks. Caramelo was one of these internet finds, because the teacher didn't use this book last year. Since I bought it for $1, I wanted to get my money's worth, so I sat down to read it when it arrived in the mail.

Interesting, interesting, interesting, especially as a class assignment for 15 year olds.  I'm not sure I approve of it: it has sex, profanity, blasphemy, an unhappy family.

Would I have found it controversial if it weren't a class assignment? If I read it for, say, Navy spouses' book club?  Probably not. I can see middle aged women reading it and loving it. I loved it.

I have a harder time seeing my son loving it.  Except it has sex in it, so maybe that will keep him reading. However, it made me question his teacher's judgment.

Then I remind myself about Shakespeare and Wuthering Heights and The Scarlet Letter, The Great Gatsby, Catcher in the Rye, etc.  And some of the junk I read in high school: everything from Vonnegut and Nabokov to Stephen King.  Indiscriminately.

I was going to confront the teacher about it on Back to School Night Wednesday, ask him, "Why this book?" but when I walked in the room and saw all the pro-life bumper stickers on his metal desk, the "Jesus loves nerds" poster, the Good vs. Evil messages in Star Wars posters, a collage of saint cards, promotional posters from performances of Shakespeare, etc, etc, all over the walls, I lost the urge to be confrontational. My son warned me that this teacher was a little eccentric. I loved his room and his presentation. The walls were covered in literary and Biblical quotes. The teacher has the kids doing advanced GRAMMAR work and vocabulary builders everyday.  So he looks a little like a leprechaun, and all the stimulation in the room could encourage ADD, I still felt reassured about the cost of tuition.  This class, at least, will be worth it.

But back to the book: Why does it make me uncomfortable seeing it as one of three novels (the others being A Man for All Seasons and Lord of the Flies) assigned for the year (in addition to Shakespeare and Sophocles in the textbook, along with plenty of short works)?

1. I am a traditionalist when it comes to what books need to be read before you die. I think kids need to be force fed the classics. They are not going to pick up Austen or Dickens, let alone Homer, on their own.  I've done some forcing of my own, but I'd like to see it backed up at school.

2. I understand that literature teachers want to make literature appealing to youth, so they assign books they think students will enjoy. They want kids to like reading, so they assign books that aren't too hard or that are a little controversial. Maybe some teachers want to teach cultural awareness or social justice through literature. They want their students to be voracious and omnivorous readers and to understand the world around them.

I do, too.  I've tried to encourage a love of reading above every other educational goal (to the detriment of my younger kids' grasp of math facts).  I'm right with whoever it was who said give a kid a love of books and then stand back for the rest of their education.

But I think we need to teach students how to evaluate what they read by encouraging them to read good books - books with depth of meaning and language. I know I read without judgment as a teenager, and it was because I wanted to know why some books were considered "great" or "classics" that I chose a great books program for my college major. I loved all the books I read - I still mostly do - but it's hard to discriminate between preference and taste and quality without reading those "great" books at some point.

3. There are a lot of books in the world and a limited amount of time in which to read them. Which books deserve our time and attention?

While Caramelo is an interesting read, written in a lyrical style, evocative of an age and a culture which may be unfamiliar to many sophomores, I'm not sure it's one of those books you need to read before you die.  I'd prefer to see something more traditional on the reading list.  I hope the class is reading ALL of Antigone and not just selections. Antigone also has a dysfunctional family and the play contains violence, love affairs, and unhappiness, but it champions virtue and honor. Does Caramelo?

I'm still sorting it out. Don't get me wrong: I really liked reading it, and I'm glad I read it after just having moved to California, home to so many immigrants from Mexico and heavily influenced by Hispanic culture.  I think it opened my eyes to aspects of the Mexican-American culture, and I liked the way Cisneros used flashbacks and conversations with dead people and shifting perspectives to tell the story. In the end, it does come around to defending the family ties that both bind and support. It shows how people we may find difficult to love often have dark backstories that cripple their emotions.

And despite my prudish response to the earthy elements of the story, the vision at the end of the novel is one I agree with.  A summary:

The novel is the story of three generations of the Reyes family told primarily from the perspective of one of the granddaughters, who is the youngest and only girl. Lala, in a family of seven kids born to the favorite of three sons.  The relationships are untangled slowly.  Cisneros uses lots of dialogue, many flashbacks and stories told by one character to another, frequent references to Mexican history, which is often explained in chapter endnotes, and many Spanish words and quotations. Most of the Spanish is explained in context or in endnotes. I could figure it out without being a Spanish student, but this unconventional style might be difficult for some teenagers.  Her writing is colorful and unconventional. I can see my son complaining that he can't figure out who is talking or what they are saying in Spanish or about the frequent diversions into Mexico's convoluted history.

The meandering plot follows Lala's coming to understand her Reyes family and her grandmother, and her father, the oldest of three sons who immigrate to Chicago as young men to run away from their mother and toward a dream of more financial stability running an upholstery shop together.  Every summer they drive from Chicago to their birthplace to spend time with their parents and sister.  Lala's reminiscing about these family vacations is the starting point of the novel, but it moves into a circuitous explanation of the personalities and relationships that both destroy and knit family bonds.

The characters are fiery and dramatic.  They have secrets in their pasts that explain why they snap at their children or cajole or complain.  They hold close memories of happy moments that they are always mourning or dreams that they can never quite fulfill.  The parents and children and husbands and wives and siblings curse each other and slam doors and poke each other where it hurts most. But they are proud of their family name. They have traditions that they cling to, even though they are difficult and painful. They are intent on keeping the family together even though they seem to hate each other most of the time.

As I read I found myself thinking: is a teenager going to think that this is a story about the way families hurt each other or the way they support each other? Would the way this story reveals the weaknesses of the older generation encourage a young reader to wish that Lala would throw off her feelings of connection with these crazy family members and live her own life? What about all the affairs? Should Grandmother have kicked him out? Should Father have run away with her? Is life just full of failed love affair after failed love affair?

There are plenty of criticisms of Catholic culture, also. Lala's mother scorns religion.  Lala's father is ambivalent. Lala doesn't want to go to Catholic school. Only the crazy grandmother remains devoted to Our Lady of Guadalupe.

But if the sophomores stick with the book until the last few pages, they will find that Lala finds comfort in faith:
I walk over the the basilica. The streets turned into trashy aisles of glow-in-the-dark Guadalupes, Juan Diego paperweights, Blessed Virgin pins, scapulars, bumper stickers, key chains, plastic pyramids. The old cathedral collapsing under its own weight, the air ruined, filthy, corncobs rotting in the curb, the neighborhood pocked, overpopulated, and boiling in its own stew of juices, corner men hissing psst, psst at me, flies resting on the custard gelatins rubbing their furry forelegs together like I-can't-wait. 
The old church is closed. They've built an ugly new building with a moving escalator in front of Juan Diego's tilma. Poor Virgen de Guadalupe. Hundreds of people ride the moving conveyor belt of humanity. The most wretched of the earth, and me among them, wearing my grandmother's rebozo knotted on my head like a pirate, like someone from the cast of Hair. 
I didn't expect this. I mean the faith. I mixed up the Pope with this, with all this, this light, this energy, this love. The religion part can go out the window. But I didn't realize about the strength and power of la fe. 
A wisp of a woman sweeping herself feverishly with a candle. A mother still in her apron blessing herself and blessing her daughters. A ragged viejita who walked here on her knees. Grown men crying, machos with their lips mumbling prayers, people with so much need. Help me, help me!
Everybody needs a lot. The whole world needs a lot. Everyone, the women frying lunch putting warm coins in your hand. The market sellers asking, - What else? The taxi drivers racing to make the light. The baby purring on a mother's fat shoulder. Welders, firemen, grandmothers, bank tellers, shoeshine boys, and diplomats. Everybody, every single one needs a lot. The planet swings on its axis, a drunk trying to do a pirouette. Me, me, me! Every fist with an empty glass in the air. The earth throbbing like a field ready to burst into dandelion.
I look up, and la Virgen looks down at me, and, honest to God, this sounds like a lie, but it's true. The universe a cloth, and all humanity interwoven. Each and every person connected to me, and me connected to them, like the strands of a rebozo. Pull one string and the whole thing comes undone. Each person who comes into my life affecting the pattern, and me affecting theirs.

That pretty much sums up the whole of the novel.  It closes with an anniversary party. Friends, old and new, and relatives, close and far, come together and eat and dance.  A brief vision of the heavenly beatitude.
"La Divina Providencia is the most imaginative writer. Plotlines convolute and spiral, lives intertwine, coincidences collide, seemingly random happenings are laced with knots, figure eights, and double loops, designs more intricate than the fringe of a silk rebozo. No, I couldn't make this up. Nobody could make up our lives." 
If only the 15 year olds will stick with it to the end.


* p.s. Another critical look at what young adults read: Megan Cox Gurdon's "The Case for Good Taste in Children's Books", a retake on a controversial article from a couple of years ago.

Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Places we have been: A photo retrospective of the summer

Last Thursday my kids started school. More about that eventually. During the hours in which they were learning their teachers' and classmates' names and rules, I uploaded photos and then spent in inordinate amount of time organizing them.  Then I misused Facebook by posting too many at once to share with the siblings and cousins.

But I still have more to share!

So I'm posting an incomplete photo essay of our summer. As I organize photos and think about getting on Shutterfly to make a photobook, I realize there are a lot of holes in the story I'm attempting to tell through photojournalism. For instance, I'm a little sorry I didn't take any pictures of the little apartment we lived in for our first month in California. That will be a chapter in our family history we won't forget. I'm not posting many photos from our week in Oklahoma City with my husband's family because they all have people in them, and I'm not sure the aunts and uncles want their kids on my blog.  And perhaps I should have taken pictures of our moving in. But the kids don't do cute things with boxes anymore because they are too big. (Although they did use a box for a spray paint protector not too long ago.)  I don't think about the photo album when I'm taking the photos.  Maybe in the future, I will be more forward thinking. Or not.

Without more ado, here are some mostly people-less shots I didn't post on Facebook.


The sunset at the last party at Gabgab in Guam. This was our favorite
place to gather and swim and snorkel. The roped off area designated
a safe place for the kids to swim, the currents weren't strong, the reef
was always colorful and turtles and sharks lurked near the drop-off. When
you talk to people who lived in Guam 10, 20 or even 30 years ago, they
mention swimming at Gabgab.
Goodbye, NBG. How many times a day did I pass through the gate?
It's funny how something that seems so irritating the first few months
becomes something you feel nostalgic about later.


From Guam we flew to LA and then on to Indiana to see the fam on the farm. I never tire of admiring the ever changing beauty of my home state, especially the rural area where my parents live, even though I was so anxious to leave it as a teenager. Have I told the story about how I wanted to go out of state to a big city college but my parents STRONGLY encouraged me to apply to one in-state school, which is where I ended up attending? The irony: I married a young man obligated to serve the Navy for at least five years and here we are 17 years later still living the Navy vagabond life. I have loved every place we have lived, but I still feel like I am coming home when we drive past cornfields.


I've always thought this was wild phlox, but the four petals mean it
is actually Dame's Rocket.
The fruit of a tree perhaps planted by Johnny Appleseed, who
traversed the midwest. Now my parents have a slowly maturing
apple orchard with multiple varieties just beginning to ripen.
The girls
The mock orange, one time favorite of spring brides, was in glorious bloom in early June.
The rickety playfort was finally burned down out of safety concerns.
My mom's pretty front porch

A hike to Clifty Falls. Love the spring woods. Not so in love with
many warning signs to stay on the trail, something we didn't miss in Guam.
 
We took 31 people, most of them under 4 feet tall, to the restaurant at the top of this building for my in-laws' fiftieth wedding anniversary: A grand celebration of life, love, and family.
The drive across West Texas. Long and lonely.
The mesa of Arizona
Crossing the Colorado River. Maybe one day we'll detour to the Hoover Dam, miracle of modern engineering.
Not what the Joads saw upon arriving.
The one shot of the poor dog having to live on the hotel porch.
A family portrait following the change of command ceremony


My husband's in a museum.

The seal for my husband's command. I like that it is a book.


An early trip to the California beach. The grey skies are a byproduct of the marine layer that hovers for months here.

Checking out the sites of our new home.

I hope this is just the first of many visits to the missions of Saint Junipero Serra.
My fourth grader will be learning the history of California and will have to make a model mission.
I hope to learn along with him. 

This was the day I took my kids to the county fair and refused to spend
any money on food or rides. Torture or training in discipline? We went
to see the animals and the 4-H displays.

Who cares about elephant ears when you can watch piglets nursing?
The runt on the left was the crowd pleaser, although his crying was pitiful.

My old hobby: a shortlived 4-H career showing rabbits.

Lavender, rosemary and white sage, I think, in my front garden.

The 7 yr old decided she'd rather use her car seat as a garden chair than as a safety device.

Fresh squeezed OJ in its potential form. These oranges
are almost too juicy to eat but make great juice.

The lemon tree - a somewhat sweet variety. Or I'm picking them too late.
When I made lemon bars they tasted much less tart.

Still waiting to make guacamole. These guys haven't ripened up yet.

Good morning, California







Can you see the dolphins?


Harbor seals basking near where we camped one night.

Ice plant.


Kids acting like seals

Our campground.

Taking lots of sunset pictures to remind myself that it is beautiful here, too.
Still in that awkward outsider phase. Need another four or five months before
we start feeling at home.

A visit with friends to an LA science museum.

In the tornado tube.

The kids were excited to see the Hollywood sign, barely visible to the left of the exit sign.

Walking the foggy beach near sunset.


I think the cat got the bird.




Monday, August 19, 2013

Roadtrip reading

At one point I said I was going to try to read 40 books in (or was it before?) my 40th year.  Well, I turned 40 back in May, and my reading has been going pretty slowly.  In between all of our activities and teaching and socializing in Guam, the move, and being with family on vacation, I haven't spent much time between the covers of books.  Our road trip gave me an opportunity to catch up a little bit, especially if I count juvenile literature. Since I just finished The Grapes of Wrath to keep up with my son's AP English class and as an introduction to California, I thought I'd finish this list of reviews of recent reads, just to through something up here during a busy time. Let's just say that we've had some ups and downs recently.

So reading: I had read Steinbeck's work back in high school myself, but remembered few of the details, only a brief outline of the plot and the characters.  I had forgotten how lyrical parts of the book are - maybe I breezed through those chapters, as I suspect my son did, since he didn't underline any of those parts.  Having just driven alongside Route 66 on our own journey from Oklahoma to California, parts of the setting were very familiar. We even stopped in Needles ourselves to get a new tire for the trailer before crossing the desert because my husband didn't want to get caught in between rest areas, just like the Joads. Even today it is a long, lonely stretch of road through Death Valley.

Also, the similarities of concerns about large farms back then and today are striking. Migrant workers still bend between rows of strawberries and walk through groves of citrus trees picking fruit.  Although I grew up in America's breadbasket, farming in California is very different. Soybean, wheat and corn can cover hundreds of acres and be harvested by just a few men driving large farm implements.  Here the harvest must be handled more gently and brought in by hundreds of hands. A great deal has changed, I'm sure, between the days of the Joads and today, but there still is a need for human dignity and potential and for the land to be protected.

I think my teenager was a little put off by the politics of the book and embarrassed that I'm reading this book that he just read that has all these references to tomcatting and canoodling. It makes me wonder whether I've sheltered him a little too much. Not that share Steinbeck's apparent approval of the actions of Al and others in the book, who act on the human need for physical affection without commitment, but if there is one thing that literature is useful for, it is for learning to understand and empathize with people vastly different from ourselves, even if we disagree with them or disapprove of their actions. How else can we maintain civility in diverse communities, such as the one we are in? I'm sure we can love our enemies and forgive those who injure us, either personally or communally, without literature, but certainly books help us open our hearts. Literature like The Grapes of Wrath is in some ways spiritual reading because it does allow us to know and love our neighbor in a real way, even if he is a sinner or a cheat or a redneck or a yuppie or an Okie.

I think I have explained this to the boys, but I'm not sure if I've done it well enough. I just read this article by Mark Edmundson from the Chronicle that does a good job of capturing some of the reasons I was an English major: a good read:
Love for language, hunger for life, openness and a quest for truth: Those are the qualities of my English major in the ideal form. But of course now we're talking about more than a mere academic major. We're talking about a way of life. We're talking about a way of living that places inquiry into how to live in the world—what to be, how to act, how to move through time—at its center.
What we're talking about is a path to becoming a human being, or at least a better sort of human being than one was at the start. An English major? To me an English major is someone who has decided, against all kinds of pious, prudent advice and all kinds of fears and resistances, to major, quite simply, in becoming a person.

The other book I read for AP English is A Separate Peace, by John Knowles. Another repeat from high school that I'm glad to return to as an adult. This one was a tearjerker for me as a teenager, but today I feel a little manipulated by the maudlin ending. Even without Finny's second accident, the book's impact would have been strong.  Where once I read it mostly for the emotional impact, now I see it more as a story of how Gene comes to terms with guilt and loss and with discovering that making the world into dichotomies, us vs. them, serves no purpose. Instead of vanquishing Phineas, he takes something of him into his soul, the part that sees the world as a large wonderful place full of possibility to enjoy without fear: "[Phineas] possessed an extra vigor, a heightened confidence in himself, a serene capacity for affection, which saved him. . . . Only Phineas never was afraid, only Phineas never hated anyone."

To live without fear, without an enemy - another reason books are important.

Other reads:
Savvy by Ingrid Law- this is a recent Newbery Honor book out for the older elementary/younger middle school group that my daughter picked up for a birthday present at a wonderful children's bookstore we discovered.   The story follows Mibs, a girl born into a family with special "gifts" that appear on their thirteenth birthdays. It was entertaining, but the characters felt a little thin. It reminded me of some other contemporary prepubescent girl books we have read, like the one about the girl who gets left behind by her tramp dad and the swamp girl book, that use kind of southern slang and crazy names and unusually constructed sayings. This one takes place on the border between Nebraska and Kansas, so the southernisms seemed a little out of place. The gifts are called "Savvies" and are abilities like making storms or causing electrical surges.  Mibs is just turning 13 and is trying to get to Salinas to see her injured dad, so she leads her brothers and a couple friends on a round about journey to get there. Along the way she discovers her own savvy.  Entertaining, not exactly heart stopping.

Elizabeth Goudge's The Sign of the Green Dolphin. This was a library reject I bought years ago. It's a thematically grouped collection of chapters from Goudge's books. Usually I don't like these kinds of things - I'd prefer to read the whole book. But I didn't realize what I was buying when I shoved it in a "Bag for $5" at a library sale. I did enjoy reading it and it made me want to try to track down some of these books, especially the eponymous title.

Mortal Beauty, God's Grace: Major Poems and Spiritual Writings of Gerard Manley Hopkins: This one I had been working on for a while. A book to dip in and out of. Some Hopkins poetry is not as good as others, but some Hopkins is luminous. A few segments from his journals, mostly eloquent descriptions of natural observances, are also included. His poetry seems to show more insight than his sermons.

The Illyrian Adventure by Lloyd Alexander Another kids' book. I thought this one was fun, but I can't get anyone else interested because the cover is torn and cheesy. And I can't quite decide if it is worth force feeding. There are a few points where I felt the plot jumped too much. Or maybe I was just distracted while reading.  The heroine is Vesper Holly, a young lady who goes off to discover her father's research project, a lost manuscript in the imaginary ancient culture of Illyria. An enemy group is after the same secret - think Indiana Jones with a female heroine and an aging Watson following along.

Colleen Carroll Campbell's My Sisters the Saints: I enjoyed reading Campbell's memoirs, particularly the story of her father's struggles with dementia. The father-daughter relationship is more illuminating than the explanations of what draws Campbell to some intellectual female saints, but those were equally interesting.

Anita Lobel's life story, No Pretty Pictures - Another library reject that had been taking up shelf space. This story reminds me of The Diary of Anne Frank, whcih I haven't read since middle school. But I might rate this one higher. Only Lobel didn't die. She did have to go into hiding, though. Particulary interesting was her recovery in Sweden.

Strange Idols by Elizabeth Scalia - loaned to me by my sister. A good critique of the ways we waste our time. I've really cut back my Facebook time without any loss.  I meant to have my older boys read this one.

Misty of Chincoteague - Read with my 4th grader. A favorite of mine from my horse-crazed youth. I started to cry when I read the part about the Phantom looking out toward Assateague yearning for home. And then Paul does the right thing... Brought back happy memories of a long ago trip to the island when my younger boys were wee lads.

We've also be reading through the Ramona books with my soon to be second grader: Beezus and Ramona, Ramona the Pest, Ramona the Brave. Everyone enjoys listening to Cleary's stories. So real and so funny.

Those are the highlights from the last couple of months. School starts this week, and I don't have a job yet, so we'll see if I can get some more reading done. Currently working on my uncle's memoirs and Thomas Merton's No Man is an Island.  Both illuminating in different ways.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

And now we are Californians

... and we take the 101 to the 405 . . . (SNL skit link)

July has escaped. Although school doesn't start for another week, our extended summer "vacation" is over at long last.  Just over 10 days past, we moved into the place we'll call home for the next two or so years.  We did, in fact, look at this house on the last day of our novena to St. Joseph, and while it is by no means a perfect house, perhaps our hearts were more open to making it work because of the nine days of prayers.

About the house: It's a compromise. Up until this point in our lives, our houses were progressively bigger and nicer as my husband was promoted. Now here we are with our biggest housing allowance ever, but we're in southern California with the most expensive houses ever. And we're sending six kids to private school. So as the weeks of house hunting went by, and we discovered that we couldn't really afford a nice house, we started looking for a house that would work and leave enough  funds for school tuition and the associated costs of schooling, like field trips, binders, fundraisers, tee shirts, dances, sporting events, fundraisers, book fees, fundraisers, etc. And living in a tiny place for a couple of weeks opened our eyes to what we could make do without. So we found a California bungalow with four little bedrooms and a pretty garden in the front yard. The house is big enough for everyone to have about 200 sq feet per person. And the weather here is nice enough that the kids can play outside most of the year, so I hear. So far it seems a bit chilly to me. I'm glad I picked up some new jeans while thrift store shopping with my sister this summer.

What I like about this house: The drive to school is only about 10 minutes.  It has lots of lavender in the front yard, and in the back yard we have a lemon tree, an orange tree, an avocado tree and an artichoke plant that is struggling. Plus, there is a terraced garden that I was planning to fill with vegetables until the neighbor told me there is a rat problem here. Maybe I'll do flowers. Or get some mosquito netting or a cat to deter the rodents from eating my produce. About a mile down the street is a big park with a running path and a swimming pool.  The kitchen is bright and sunny. Can't see water from the house anymore, but the beach is only about 15 minutes away.

What I don't like about this house: It's a bit dated, or more than a bit, in what antique stores here like to call "midcentury": kinda ugly sixties' minimalism. The bathroom fixtures are rusty and cracked. The mirrors are stained. The window slots are grimy. There is no overhead lighting, so I've been shopping for lamps at thrift stores. The older boys' room still feels like a cave. The fireplace has this funky triangular chimney with no mantle. The kitchen counters are tiled with white grout which means lots of scrubbing. The bedrooms are small and two are dark. The washer and dryer are in the garage.  The bedrooms all have carpet that used to be cream colored.

We had to buy a washer and dryer and a refrigerator. The last time I bought new appliances, I shopped for energy star items that were the best I could afford. This time I was inspired by friends to shop on craigslist for the cheapest things I could find since they were going in the garage. We scored all 3 appliances for $120. And they work! We also were given a second fridge to go in the garage, but my husband gave the guy $40 for helping deliver it. As I was cleaning it, the kids said it looked like the fridge from "ET." And lo and behold, there was a sticker on it that said, "July, 1989." Maybe it is from "ET"! It also works, but I don't see myself storing up groceries in it, so we might put it back on Craigslist.

Now I have an addiction to Craigslist. Since our hand-me-down kitchen table is bulky (think vintage late 70s /early 80s), and we're ready to get rid of the IKEA booster chairs we've been using for 14 years, we have decided to buy a new table and chairs. I keep trying to find something on Craigslist that looks better that what we have and has a slimmer profile, but so far most everything is that midcentury look I don't really care for. I'm also watching computers on Craigslist, since our 2006 Dell is pretty slow for the modern internet we have here. (One feature that is up-to-date.)

Needless to say, this house won't go down in history as one of my favorites.  It looks homey with our stuff in it, and my husband has vastly improved the storage by adding shelving in the closets and cupboards. The younger kids have been playing happily with toys they haven't seen for a couple months - including board games, surprisingly enough. Still plenty of skirmishes, but now I can't tell them to go outside. There are a few children in the neighborhood, but for now we have the "no going into anyone's house" rule. But so far, this house doesn't have the cuteness or the amenities that other house we have loved had. But fondness grows with familiarity, so when our time here is up, I may find myself snapping photos of my favorite corners to remember.

A smaller house means we have had to divest ourselves of some belongings. We filled about 8 or 9 3.0 cartons (the big square size moving box) with stuff to give away, mostly clothes, books, and toys (I'm embarrassed to admit how many t-shirts we had). I made about $50 selling stuff for $0.25 - 1.00 at a friend's group garage sale last weekend, but I already regret selling my pepper grinder (?!) and some wobbly stools I should have kept one for a haircutting chair. Meanwhile, another friend made $600 selling nice tools and pots for $5-50.

Still have stuff to send off: stacks of books are littering the garage while we await some shelves we had in storage. What doesn't fit has to go. I have to sever my sentimental attachment to old paperbacks and other doodads that are currently crammed into the garage. Maybe its being 40, maybe its knowing that the next time we move, our oldest will be in college, maybe its knowing we've outgrown a lot of the things a family with a lot of little kids needs but not a family with bigger kids, but I'm finally recognizing that I don't need to hold on to much of this stuff "just in case." (When I tried to give away Duplo blocks, my husband said, "Don't you want to have grandchildren?" Won't we be able to buy them new Duplos? Or will we be too broke from college tuition for 6 kids? Do you hold on to stuff for potential grandkids?)

This ramble has to end. Time to start learning about our new state.
Reading is one form of escape. Running for your life is another.
-Lemony Snicket