Monday, February 4, 2013

I love these kinds of lists: 100 Books


Can I play the game?  I'm copying from the Darwins, Bearing, Jamie... 

I also came up with my own key and have a note of explanation: I got a jumpstart on some of these titles because a high school English teacher gave me a list of 100 books a college graduate should have read by graduation (on a piece of paper photocopied from some book, not off the internet, which was at the time still restricted to colleges and research institutions). Hats off to motivational English teachers! Since I didn't have a social life, I read two books a week to get through the list. Needless to say, I could not pass a pop quiz on a number of those, except for the ones I reread as an adult.  I'd hazard a guess that that list had better titles than this list. Also, joining book clubs has upped the number of contemporary titles I've read - and also forgotten much of, aside from rudimentary plot elements.  So even though I've read 79 of the books, I can't really claim to "know" more than maybe a third. 
Haven't read
Read it
Reread*
Read in high school or before
LOVE
Interested in reading, based on what I know of it
Saw the movie



  1. To Kill a Mockingbird*
  2. The Catcher in the Rye
  3. Fellowship of the Ring*
  4. Pride and Prejudice*
  5. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone
  6. Romeo and Juliet*
  7. Jane Eyre*
  8. 1984
  9. Hamlet*
  10. The Hobbit*
  11. Brave New World
  12. The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe*
  13. The Great Gatsby*
  14. The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn*
  15. Fahrenheit 451
  16. Wuthering Heights*
  17.  Alice's Adventures in Wonderland*
  18. The Secret Garden
  19. Green Eggs and Ham*
  20. Little Women*
  21. Of Mice and Men
  22. The Handmaid's Tale
  23. Lord of the Flies
  24. The DaVinci Code
  25. Frankenstein
  26. Dune
  27. The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy
  28. Gone With The Wind*
  29. Charlie and the Chocolate Factory
  30. A Wrinkle in Time*
  31. The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo
  32. Slaughterhouse Five
  33. Anne of Green Gables*
  34. Twilight
  35. Where the Sidewalk Ends*
  36. Le Petit Prince *
  37. Memoirs of a Geisha
  38. The Princess Bride
  39. The Picture of Dorian Grey
  40. The Hunger Games
  41. Sense and Sensibility*
  42. The Golden Compass
  43. Dracula
  44. The Color Purple
  45. The Kite Runner
  46. The Odyssey
  47. Anna Karenina* (Currently rereading)
  48. And Then There Were None
  49. Interview with the Vampire
  50. The Book Thief
  51. One Hundred Years of Solitude
  52. The Count of Monte Cristo
  53. One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest
  54. The Joy Luck Club
  55. Little House on the Prairie*
  56. The Giver
  57. Life of Pi
  58. Rebecca
  59. The Adventures of Sherlock Holmes
  60. Ender's Game
  61. A Tale of Two Cities
  62. L'Étranger
  63. East of Eden
  64. Les Miserables
  65. The Bell Jar
  66. Lolita*
  67. The Road
  68. The Time Traveler's Wife
  69. A Prayer for Owen Meany
  70. The Stand
  71. Catch-22
  72. The Sun Also Rises
73. The Pillars of the Earth
74. Crime and Punishment
75. The Good Earth
76. The Unbearable Lightness of Being
77. The Help
78.  Watchmen
79.  Lonesome Dove
80. Water for Elephants
81.  Outlander
82.  American Gods
83. The Poisonwood Bible
84. My Sister's Keeper
85.  The Master and Margarita
86.  The Notebook
87.  Like Water for Chocolate
88. Beloved*
89. Their Eyes Were Watching God
90. Invisible Man
91.  A Game of Thrones
92. The Fountainhead*
93.  The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao
94. Ulysses
95.  The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle
96. The Brothers Karamazov*
97. The House of the Spirits
98.  Fight Club
99.  Middlesex
100.            Interpreter of Maladies (read some short stories by Lahiri)

I should have coded the ones I want to reread - Their Eyes Were Watching God, The Secret Garden, maybe East of Eden, maybe the Vonnegut just to remember why I liked him ...but I think as an adult I wouldn't like Vonnegut anymore, even if he was a Hoosier.

Friday, February 1, 2013

Is running fun?


I think I have mentioned that I have decided to run a marathon for my 40th birthday. The actual race is more than a month before my real birthday, which is significant only because it means I’m still in the more competitive 30-39 year old age group, but there are only two marathons on Guam, so I’ll be racing in April.

I found a training program online and started following it a several weeks ago. It’s not too time consuming right now, but I’m going to have to get in several runs of 2 hours or more. That means I’m going to have to get up earlier and earlier the next few Saturdays.  Most of the time I confine my runs to base because I don’t like worrying about traffic or dogs. The route is already getting old. I found someone to run at least a portion of the long runs with me, so the time spent running in large circles passes a little faster, but I’m still wondering if I really want to do this. Maybe the reason why runners are particularly susceptible to inspirational Facebook quotes and posters is because they are always seeking an answer to Why? Why run this far? Why use up what cartilage I have left in my knees? Is this really fun?



I ran one other marathon in my life, at age 22, several months after I graduated from college and several months before I got married. I was in graduate school, substitute teaching occasionally, and had no pressing responsibilities, other than paying my share of rent and utilities and feeding myself.  I was still in shape from collegiate running. I found it relaxing to spend a couple of hours on the weekend running around Dallas – mostly the Turtlecreek area or around White Rock Lake near SMU.  Then I could lie on the couch the rest of the weekend and read.

I ran a pretty good race – I think my time was 3:13 – and qualified for the 100th anniversary of the Boston marathon. I was happy to hit this benchmark, since I had no real idea of how I’d do in this long race. Moreover, I knew I’d be in Rhode Island that spring as a newlywed for the historic event. I made notes on what to do to improve my time. Boston here I come! Or so I thought.

But life turned out better: shortly after the Dallas race, my husband and I were married, and by the time we moved to Rhode Island, I was pregnant and due to deliver our first baby right around the date of the Boston race.

Having a baby was more fun than training. So life sped along happily for many years in which I got good use out of a babyjogger, but I rarely raced, other than a couple of 5Ks over a period of 12 years.  When we moved to Mississippi, our youngest went to preK for a bit, so I didn’t need the babyjogger any more. I raced three or four times and surprised myself by winning my age group, and, once, the women’s division.

Now on Guam, there is a strong and healthy racing subculture. Every weekend you can find a road race, either a fundraiser or sponsored by the running club. Nearly once month or more the triathlon club holds an event. The bike club has regular rides. There’s a mountain bike series. There’s the Perimeter Run, the Cocos Island swim, the paddling group, the hash runners. Xterra Guam holds trail races and an international qualifying triathlon that attracts a relatively large number of participants for a small island. 

It helps that every weekend the weather is beautiful.

Many – if not most - of the participants in these various events are the same people.  Eventually you get to know some of them. You wish each other luck before the races and talk about what was hard afterwards. You chitchat about what race is coming up and what you’re doing for training. After several months of this, you have made friends.  You hang around after the race for ribbons and snacks and drawings for prizes. Fairly often I win my age group and sometimes get a coupon for a free dinner. Some races offer goody bags with coupons and marketing give-aways like pins and water bottles. I won a DVD player and a bottle of wine in drawings. Not bad for a $5 entry fee.

The drawback to these events is that most of them start at 5:30 or 6 in the morning. The plus is they are over before it starts to get hot.  Last weekend I got up on Saturday at 6 to run 12 miles with my friend for training and on Sunday at 5 to run in a 3 mile trail race. I was already tired from trying to get back into the school routine. I nearly stayed in bed on Sunday.

But after lying in bed several minutes, I realized I was wide awake, and I might as well get up. My son wanted to go (another fun part of these runs is that they are family friendly for the most part – great bonding opportunities). We hadn’t done a trail run before, and this one wasn’t too far from our house. I rolled out of bed, and we headed out.

About a hundred people were there. The route wound through the woods, down a clay hillside and across a stream that dropped into a waterfall. Back up the hill, a spectacular view provided inspiration for the second half of the run.  It was a tough course, but beautiful. And since the guy who was in the lead got lost, my son won, and I came in third overall.  For our pains and entry fee we received a cup of water and a handshake -  plus the satisfaction of beating some pretty fit looking guys. The race was its own reward, I guess.

I shouldn’t say “guess.” The race was rewarding. It was hard leaping from hillock to hillock and prancing across the stream. I wanted to walk the steep uphill. We were filthy when the race was over; our shoes were loaded with mud.  But I finished well, which is always satisfying.  And my son was really happy with his win, which always makes me happy.

There are few things that I am really good at, but I’m a better than average runner. I know that I wouldn’t be winning races in other places with the times that I’m running. In college I was a front of the middle of the pack runner, and I’d probably be in the same position in a big city race. Nonetheless, it still feels good to race, to win, to improve.

So even though it is not necessarily “fun” to do these training runs and to get up before the sun, it is fun to greet familiar faces, to be congratulated when hard work pays off, to use a talent that is God-given.  Being a decent runner is a gift that doesn’t seem to have any real service to humanity, but here on Guam, since the races are affordable and family friendly, running gives us the opportunity to interact with the community and to involve the family in fitness.  I like to think that when people see me out there, they see that you can have 6 kids and still be halfway normal.

Then again, maybe this isn’t normal.







and more...
"We run, not because we think it is doing us good, but because we enjoy it and cannot help ourselves...The more restricted our society and work become, the more necessary it will be to find some outlet for this craving for freedom. No one can say, 'You must not run faster than this, or jump higher than that.' The human spirit is indomitable." 
-Sir Roger Bannister, first runner to run a sub-4 minute mile
"The miracle isn't that I finished. The miracle is that I had the courage to start." 
-John Bingham
"You have to wonder at times what you're doing out there. Over the years, I've given myself a thousand reasons to keep running, but it always comes back to where it started. It comes down to self-satisfaction and a sense of achievement." 
- Steve Prefontaine
"I always loved running...it was something you could do by yourself, and under your own power. You could go in any direction, fast or slow as you wanted, fighting the wind if you felt like it, seeking out new sights just on the strength of your feet and the courage of your lungs." 
-Jesse Owens
"The will to win means nothing without the will to prepare." 
-Juma Ikangaa, 1989 NYC Marathon winner
"In running, it doesn't matter whether you come in first, in the middle of the pack, or last. You can say, 'I have finished.' There is a lot of satisfaction in that." 
-Fred Lebow, New York City Marathon co-founder
"To give anything less than your best is to sacrifice the gift." - Steve Prefontaine
"The answer to the big questions in running is the same as the answer to the big questions in life: Do the best with what you've got." - Dr. George Sheehan

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Second guessing


I talked to my mother-in-law the other day, and she commented on what unusually nice weather they were having – sunny and in the 60s.  Before I spoke, I caught myself thinking, Wow, that’s really cool for the summer. Oops, I mean warm for winter. What season is it? I’m going to miss Guam.

We still have just over 4 months left. Plenty of time to enjoy island life. But the calendar is filling up.  I’ve been researching schools in California and printing applications. It’s giving me technostress.

I’m considering putting all the kids back in school this move. The boys all wanted to go to school here once they made friends, although, ironically, it seems like several new home schooling families have moved in to the area lately. Nonetheless, even though the past few weeks with just the girls home have gone well, I’ve appreciated the ability of the older kids to take advantage of things like free music lessons, Spanish class, drama class, etc.  The older boys in particular seem to work harder for other teachers than myself, motivated partially by competition, which is perhaps not the best motivation to do well in math, but viable. And the younger boys are being assigned more work and taking more responsibility for it than they did with me. School has been especially good for my youngest son, who needed the routine and structure, as well as the encouragement he receives from his teacher, who is absolutely wonderful.  It’s been a good semester.

Of course, as soon as I feel sort of at home with this decision to send all the kids to school in California, I read something like Jennifer Fulwiler’s post on the dangers of being too detached from your kids, so that they identify more with their peers. Maybe I should reconsider.  Especially since we’re moving to Southern California.  Are my kids going to be pressured by their peers to give up their faith, to smoke pot, to bleach their hair? AHHHH! Peer Culture!

Not only did I start to second guess my inclination to put them in school, but I began to wonder whether my working at the community college and leaving them at home for an hour or so before their dad gets home is abandoning them. I fear we have not given them roots. I fear we should have read them to sleep more often. I should not have let the older ones get ipods.  I began to think of all the compromises I’ve made in my parenting. I let them eat hydrogenated oils and corn syrup. I found out our water has unacceptable levels of trihalomethanes, and we're all going to get cancer because we haven't been drinking filtered water.  I’ve been parenting all wrong.

Fortunately, before this fear crippled me, we received a note in the mail yesterday from a young couple newly arrived on island. My kids have taken a liking to them, and we had them over to dinner last week. They are like a young aunt or uncle or an older set of cousins. Anyway, in the midst of my parenting crisis, we got their thank you note that said “Being in your home, so full of life and love, was a heartening and inspiring experience.” “Full of life” may be a euphemism for “loud and rowdy,” but I was still consoled by this little note. Maybe we’re not doing it all wrong.

Deep breath. Perhaps it's me who needs to detach from peer culture and focus more on what's around me, so that I can see the kids are ok.  This move is going to be another challenge, but also another opportunity to find strength in and from each other. It's one more way our family will grow in our identity as a family. Having lived on an island will give my kids a sense of their uniqueness.  And the last two years have provided multiple opportunities for our family to bond, even though I'm not home schooling everyone. Trust. 

And at least my older boys haven’t caved to peer pressure yet to get a tattoo like 75% of their classmates.
Reading is one form of escape. Running for your life is another.
-Lemony Snicket